I was trying to find results of the fitness assessment that was done at Lifetime Fitness back in June of 2010 and then I remembered I had posted it within my blog. After finding it I started reading some of my past posts over the last 2 years and realized just how long this journey to better health has been for me. I stopped blogging in September of 2011 because of issues with Lara's mother. But, after re-reading some of the posts I remember how much fun it was to record this wild crazy ride in my life so one day I could remember all the adventures I survived. :)
One of my last posts surfaced what was happening with Lara's mom. I have received countless questions from people wondering what happened and why I stopped blogging.
I stopped blogging because Mary Helen no longer has the right to peek into our personal lives or Cristian's and so no posts meant no way for her to stay connected. She doesn't deserve even that. But, I'm done putting my life on hold for someone who is the most selfish, manipulative, racist, and prejudiced person I have ever known.
So here are more details in a nutshell since I haven't really responded to all the questions - I'm sorry...we just needed to distance ourselves and move forward.
She was engaged to be married to a man, Larry Glass, whom she had just met in February on match.com. She never even mentioned him before she flashed the 27K engagement ring in her face. I can't say that Lara was surprised when Mary Helen went on to tell her all about how much money this man had and his massive ranch in Sterling, TX considering how she has been money hungry her entire life. I never met a woman before in my life that loved money more than anything else until I met Mary Helen Heidelberg, or should I say Mary Helen Glass? Her match.com profile was setup to only match her with men making 6 figure salaries. Ha...no she wasn't looking to marry into money at all, was she? It is what she does. She bled Lara's dad dry when she was with him. Sure, you can work and make money right? Not her. It is easier to just marry someone with it and then work all day spending it. So where was I? Oh yes...she was getting married. That isn't even the BEST part. How can it get any better than that eh? Well it starts with marriage and ends with disowning your only living child and grandson.
Mary Helen, on the day she decided to spring this "wonderful" news on Lara, also thought it was "best" to let Lara know how much she wanted her in the wedding and to be a part of everything, however, me and Cristian would not be invited. Why? Oh, for the same reason she has had "baggage" in her prior relationships with other rich men - she has a gay daughter and she just can't imagine a fate worse than that in life. Cristian was too risky because he is proud of his family and he might tell someone there that I exist. Under no circumstance will she tell her soon to be husband and his high posh "close knit family" about Lara's relationship and most certainly not that I exist so we all have to be a secret and Lara just has to go along with the lies. Lara told her that she was not going to remove herself from her family just to be a part of her mom's new family. You would think this would make sense to a person right? No, not Mary Helen.
So, she asks Lara's 17 year old niece to be her maid of honor and never invites Lara to the wedding. She never even told her when the wedding would be, never mind invite her. She continues weaving the web of lies to her new family of course...Lara has anxiety issues and can't be around large groups of people and that is why she didn't come to the wedding. Then it was that Lara is just not accepting that she is not a Heidelberg anymore and that she re-married. Who knows what lies she kept spinning. Lara sent her a very long email, raw and honest, laying out how she felt on being excluded and her treatment of her and how she has treated her this way her entire life, etc...did she get a response? Of course not. This is June Cleaver we are talking about. She just lives in her own world and reality and pretends nothing happened and then talks to you one day full of peppiness and smiles. I have a word for that - sociopathic.
Her new husband is under the impression that Lara lives alone, has this great job, built a house here in our neighborhood, and adopted a little boy from Guatemala who she raises on her own. Wow, even I didn't know I was married to superwoman - did you? At first she would send a text message or email as if nothing happened saying she was going to be in town and wanted to see Lara and Cristian. You know - in secret she can be her daughter and he can be her grandson. Even after Lara would send her messages telling her that until she is ready to introduce her family to her new family they have nothing to discuss - she would just continue ignoring her and then pop up with an "I love you" or "I will be in town" message every now and then.
What is sad is that she is the one with the issue with Lara being gay not all these people she brings into her life. What the hell do they care? Are they marrying Lara? No...what do they care what her adult child does with her life? They don't. She does. If she would have just been honest with Mr Larry Glass from the get go none of this would have been an issue. She didn't even give her new family a chance to make their own mind up. Not to mention what kind of mother chooses a rich new husband over their own child? Mary Helen, I guess. That woman isn't capable of loving anything but money. It is that simple. I'm sure her new husband and family are very sweet and nice and good people and they have bought into her facade of lies...she didn't even start her marriage with honesty. What kind of relationship is that exactly? If the Glass family actually had the opportunity to get to know Lara they would have seen just what an incredible, amazing, deeply loving and genuine person she is....and they would have been proud to know her.
So, to make a very long and complicated story much much shorter, Mary Helen Glass of Sterling, TX decided to choose money over having a daughter and grandson. We haven't spoken and she hasn't seen Cristian since August of last year, and frankly probably never will. There are some things in life that can't be undone and this is definitely one of them. How sad for Cristian...an 8 year old boy who just knows that one minute he had a grandmother who supposedly "loved" him and the next she decided he wasn't good enough to be in her life because he had 2 moms and it didn't fit with her new family. Not that she ever truly "loved" him. She always treated him different than her granddaughter - Lara's brother had a daughter before he passed away. For her granddaughter she would do all kinds of things - buy her new school clothes, take her shopping, buy big birthday and Christmas gifts, give her money, buy the $150 shoes she wanted, you name it...even though Lara's aunt splurged on her even more and she didn't want for anything. Cristian? Well in the 8 years she has been his grandmother she bought him a pair of cowboy boots, a hat, a small Lincoln Log set. It was obvious that he was never equal in her eyes. Her love is always conditional...and well, that isn't love at all.
How sad that a person is defined by the smallest part of them. There are thousands of pieces to a person. Their race, religion, sexuality..those are the smallest pieces of what makes them who they are. Isn't it more important to be a compassionate, giving, loving, caring, good person? I just don't understand the hatred people harbor...
Honestly, she has done nothing but hurt Lara, myself, and Cristian for as long as I have known her so I say good riddance and don't let the door hit you on the way out. So, adios 2011 and all the crap that came with it and hello 2012 :)
This year is going to be a great year because I am going to wake up every day and make it count! This is in the past. We have moved past this and moved on with the rest of our lives.
Have lots of new and exciting things to share on the journey to a healthier M E!!
Until next time...
Cheers,
M E
One of my last posts surfaced what was happening with Lara's mom. I have received countless questions from people wondering what happened and why I stopped blogging.
I stopped blogging because Mary Helen no longer has the right to peek into our personal lives or Cristian's and so no posts meant no way for her to stay connected. She doesn't deserve even that. But, I'm done putting my life on hold for someone who is the most selfish, manipulative, racist, and prejudiced person I have ever known.
So here are more details in a nutshell since I haven't really responded to all the questions - I'm sorry...we just needed to distance ourselves and move forward.
She was engaged to be married to a man, Larry Glass, whom she had just met in February on match.com. She never even mentioned him before she flashed the 27K engagement ring in her face. I can't say that Lara was surprised when Mary Helen went on to tell her all about how much money this man had and his massive ranch in Sterling, TX considering how she has been money hungry her entire life. I never met a woman before in my life that loved money more than anything else until I met Mary Helen Heidelberg, or should I say Mary Helen Glass? Her match.com profile was setup to only match her with men making 6 figure salaries. Ha...no she wasn't looking to marry into money at all, was she? It is what she does. She bled Lara's dad dry when she was with him. Sure, you can work and make money right? Not her. It is easier to just marry someone with it and then work all day spending it. So where was I? Oh yes...she was getting married. That isn't even the BEST part. How can it get any better than that eh? Well it starts with marriage and ends with disowning your only living child and grandson.
Mary Helen, on the day she decided to spring this "wonderful" news on Lara, also thought it was "best" to let Lara know how much she wanted her in the wedding and to be a part of everything, however, me and Cristian would not be invited. Why? Oh, for the same reason she has had "baggage" in her prior relationships with other rich men - she has a gay daughter and she just can't imagine a fate worse than that in life. Cristian was too risky because he is proud of his family and he might tell someone there that I exist. Under no circumstance will she tell her soon to be husband and his high posh "close knit family" about Lara's relationship and most certainly not that I exist so we all have to be a secret and Lara just has to go along with the lies. Lara told her that she was not going to remove herself from her family just to be a part of her mom's new family. You would think this would make sense to a person right? No, not Mary Helen.
So, she asks Lara's 17 year old niece to be her maid of honor and never invites Lara to the wedding. She never even told her when the wedding would be, never mind invite her. She continues weaving the web of lies to her new family of course...Lara has anxiety issues and can't be around large groups of people and that is why she didn't come to the wedding. Then it was that Lara is just not accepting that she is not a Heidelberg anymore and that she re-married. Who knows what lies she kept spinning. Lara sent her a very long email, raw and honest, laying out how she felt on being excluded and her treatment of her and how she has treated her this way her entire life, etc...did she get a response? Of course not. This is June Cleaver we are talking about. She just lives in her own world and reality and pretends nothing happened and then talks to you one day full of peppiness and smiles. I have a word for that - sociopathic.
Her new husband is under the impression that Lara lives alone, has this great job, built a house here in our neighborhood, and adopted a little boy from Guatemala who she raises on her own. Wow, even I didn't know I was married to superwoman - did you? At first she would send a text message or email as if nothing happened saying she was going to be in town and wanted to see Lara and Cristian. You know - in secret she can be her daughter and he can be her grandson. Even after Lara would send her messages telling her that until she is ready to introduce her family to her new family they have nothing to discuss - she would just continue ignoring her and then pop up with an "I love you" or "I will be in town" message every now and then.
What is sad is that she is the one with the issue with Lara being gay not all these people she brings into her life. What the hell do they care? Are they marrying Lara? No...what do they care what her adult child does with her life? They don't. She does. If she would have just been honest with Mr Larry Glass from the get go none of this would have been an issue. She didn't even give her new family a chance to make their own mind up. Not to mention what kind of mother chooses a rich new husband over their own child? Mary Helen, I guess. That woman isn't capable of loving anything but money. It is that simple. I'm sure her new husband and family are very sweet and nice and good people and they have bought into her facade of lies...she didn't even start her marriage with honesty. What kind of relationship is that exactly? If the Glass family actually had the opportunity to get to know Lara they would have seen just what an incredible, amazing, deeply loving and genuine person she is....and they would have been proud to know her.
So, to make a very long and complicated story much much shorter, Mary Helen Glass of Sterling, TX decided to choose money over having a daughter and grandson. We haven't spoken and she hasn't seen Cristian since August of last year, and frankly probably never will. There are some things in life that can't be undone and this is definitely one of them. How sad for Cristian...an 8 year old boy who just knows that one minute he had a grandmother who supposedly "loved" him and the next she decided he wasn't good enough to be in her life because he had 2 moms and it didn't fit with her new family. Not that she ever truly "loved" him. She always treated him different than her granddaughter - Lara's brother had a daughter before he passed away. For her granddaughter she would do all kinds of things - buy her new school clothes, take her shopping, buy big birthday and Christmas gifts, give her money, buy the $150 shoes she wanted, you name it...even though Lara's aunt splurged on her even more and she didn't want for anything. Cristian? Well in the 8 years she has been his grandmother she bought him a pair of cowboy boots, a hat, a small Lincoln Log set. It was obvious that he was never equal in her eyes. Her love is always conditional...and well, that isn't love at all.
How sad that a person is defined by the smallest part of them. There are thousands of pieces to a person. Their race, religion, sexuality..those are the smallest pieces of what makes them who they are. Isn't it more important to be a compassionate, giving, loving, caring, good person? I just don't understand the hatred people harbor...
Honestly, she has done nothing but hurt Lara, myself, and Cristian for as long as I have known her so I say good riddance and don't let the door hit you on the way out. So, adios 2011 and all the crap that came with it and hello 2012 :)
This year is going to be a great year because I am going to wake up every day and make it count! This is in the past. We have moved past this and moved on with the rest of our lives.
Have lots of new and exciting things to share on the journey to a healthier M E!!
Until next time...
Cheers,
M E
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